Duit Isteri VS Duit Suami

Topik MHI hari ini memang menarik, cerita pasal duit! Haha! Siapa tak suka duit kan? Hari ini Ustazah Siti Norbayah gave some tips utk kebahagian rumahtangga. Suami & isteri perlu mempunyai sifat-sifat berikut supaya rumahtangga bahagia.

s-sabar
u-usaha (cth: usaha supaya ekonomi rumahtangga jadi lebih kukuh)
a-amanah (isteri merupakan amanah suami)
m- (errr terlupalah.. memahami kot? :p)
i-ikhlas

i-idaman (jadilah isteri idaman suami)
s-sayang (isteri mana tak sayang suami oiii )
t-tolak ansur
e-elakkan (from hurting your spouse’s maruah)
r-rajin
i-istiqamah

Tanggungjawab suami adalah memberi nafkah, isteri hanya membantu. Zaman sekarang majoriti isteri keluar mencari nafkah untuk membantu suami. Awas isteri-isteri sekalian! Jangan terlalu berkorban untuk suami sampai anda sendiri terkorban!

DUIT ISTERI ADALAH HAK MUTLAK ISTERI. Kalau isteri ingin membelanjakan duit gajinya, dia boleh berbuat demikian tanpa meminta izin suami. Akan tetapi, seandainya suami melarang juga di atas sebab seperti pembelian isterinya merupakan suatu pembaziran, isteri wajib mentaati suaminya.

Seandainya isteri membantu meringankan beban suami, suami jgnlah pula mengambil kesempatan di atas kebaikan isteri. Ketahuilah para suami sekalian bahawa bantuan dari isteri itu merupakan satu sedekah. Jangan aniaya isteri dgn memgambil semua wang gajinya demi kepentingan sendiri. Seandainya anda rasa ekonomi rumahtangga tidak kukuh, anda haruslah berusaha dgn lebih gigih, bukan menganiaya isteri.

Banyak rumahtangga berantakan kerana duit. Mungkin kerana suami tidak mampu utk memenuhi kehendak isteri yg kuat berbelanja, mungkin juga kerana isteri rasa tertekan kerana most of her salary dihabiskan utk keluarga, tidak ada utk dirinya sendiri. Perkara seperti ini boleh dielakkan dengan berkomunikasi melalui perbincangan. Perkara “duit” perlu dibincangkan pada awal-awal perkahwinan. Kalau diikutkan, sepatutnya contribution suami adalah 100% tetapi oleh kerana kos sara hidup tinggi di bandar, isteri boleh contribute 30% dari gajinya utk keluarga, ataupun suami contribute as much as 70%, isteri 30% from the total of the family expenses. Tolak ansur penting dlm rumahtangga.

Sekian pelajaran rumahtangga bahagia utk hari ini :p

Watch TV online!

If you always have to fight for the TV remote control with your house mates or your spouse, IP TV can help you! Err.. provided you have high speed Internet connection at home or at your office (ops! hihihi). It’s a free service until June so try now before you have to pay RM10/month. I think RM10 is cheap and affordable. Read The Star to know more.

Haven’t got the time to try out so go explore and let me know owait!

I’ve been followed II

If you remember this, it happened again! I was followed yesterday, in broad daylight!!!

There was nothing out of the ordinary when I rode down the Federal Highway motorcycle lane. Yesterday was like any other day. The traffic was pretty normal. It was around 1715hrs so people had started coming home from work. There was nothing to worry about with so many people around.

I was speeding down the highway, overtaking slow moving bikes. At one bend I sensed one bike was very, very close behind me. I could see the bike clearly from my rear view mirror. It was the same type of bike that followed me last time only the rider was different. He was bigger. Yikes!

To test whether my instinct was right, I sped off and overtook the bike in front of me. I noticed he followed suit. I overtook another bike and he did it again, closing up behind me really fast! Sheeeett! Not again! I overtook a few more bikes and he was still at my tail. At one time I deliberately slowed down, letting all other bikes sped beside me and there he was, faithfully followed everything I did.

My mind was thinking fast. I was going to Pantai Dalam and I couldn’t recall if there is any police station there. Hmm, if he still follows me, I’ll go to my friend’s house then. Just park at his flat and pretended I lived there. Or I could go to the condo where another friend of mine living. The latter is pretty risky because I’m afraid if the guards wont let me pass through. I made my exit, shot towards the traffic light at the flyover. Red light. I stopped and turned around. I lost him. Thank God! Why on earth did he do that??!! Whether he was main-main or simply wanted to ‘test power’, I was damn lucky the episode ended there. Uh I don’t know.

Another similar incident happened a few hours after that. I was walking towards my bike when I saw one thin guy so very suspiciously staring at me. Noticing this, my mind and body somehow automatically became ready to face any attack. When I reached my bike, I saw him walking slow motionly towards me. I pretended I didn’t see him but I kept glancing at him from the corner of my eye. There was no one around. I was ready for anything. I don’t know where I got the nerves to be so cool and fearless. I struggled to close my overload Givi box and saw him coming nearer. Then he stopped abruptly, standing almost right behind me. He just stood there. I just continued adjusting the contents of my box, confidently showing I-don’t-give-a-damn-about-you-standing-there face, but still keeping a watch from the corner of my eye. I was ever so ready to strike if he tried to do anything. He stood there for a few seconds then walked away. Alhamdulillah nothing happened. I went to the movie afterwards and arrived home safely before midnight. Praise to Allah for giving me protection all the time. Alhamdulillah.

You can say I’m paranoid, I don’t care. Maybe I freaked out without no reason at all but I think it is better to be safe than sorry. Being alert is important. Well, at least notice something fishy before it’s too late. People are getting brutal, they are starting to lose their senses. Taking other people’s life seems like a satisfaction to some. So please, please everyone, man or woman, be safe. Recite the Ayatul Qursy before you go out. Always pray for your safety. May Allah be with you, always

Where are you??

Oh where oh where can my baby be
The Lord took her away from me

Itam, my cat, haven’t come home for more than a week now. I miss him. I’m worried. Mati ke, sakit ke dia? Where did he go? Hm.. he isn’t actually my cat. He’s a stray cat who likes to lepak under my porch. Always napping here and will chase away other cats, as if they would ’stole’ his lepak place. Funny it seems but that’s Itam, ‘protecting’ his territory.

I suspect someone chased him away with a penyapu lidi. Poor Itam kena perambat. But if he was just being chased away, I know he will come back when I call him. I suspect.. hmm tak baik buruk sangka.

Come home Itam. If you don’t the ants will eat your Friskies!!!

The Accident

Pitch black.

That’s the only thing I remembered when I came to. There was a police officer in blue uniform named Zulkifli standing in front of me saying something. There were so many people around me, mostly men hehe.. Zulkifli kept talking, I can’t recall what he have said but I’m sure he was trying tell me that I fainted. The word ‘pengsan’ was repeated so many times. I don’t know how long I took to absorb the word and realize where I was and I have fainted.

No one would expect it will rain that day. Well, I didn’t. It was really hot and sunny before suddenly it rained heavily, like someone had poured a bucket full of water on the roof. I had something very important to do so I hastily wore my raincoat and rode my bike to Mobil to fill up and pump my tyres.

There were so many motorcyclists pulled over at the petrol station because of the rain so I decided to go to Petronas instead. I think I hit something on the way and I lost my balance. The last thing I remember (but I’m not so sure about it) was I was going to fall. Then black. Nothing else. You probably will not believe me if I say I didn’t feel any pain when I took the fall. How and where I fell, did my head hit hard on the pavement or did I fly like a Superman, no, there’s nothing I could tell you about the fall. I can tell you I didn’t break the fall as I don’t have the typical bruises when people try to break a fall. But I do have a small abrasion on my left elbow. Even the doctor said “Sikitnya”. So, I assume I passed out before I took the fall.

A woman who was riding with her husband helped me up. She helped me to lean on something. I don’t remember. Then I think Zulkifli ordered me to take off my tudung. Huh? Taking off the damn thick high quality raincoat was the first thing I should do, not the tudung. I simply shook my head and took off my raincoat. Then a guy came to me and told me he moved my bike somewhere. “Adik, motor kat situ ye“. I was so blur I think I nodded once.. ermm maybe I just stared at him. After a few moments he came to me and told me the same thing again. I don’t remember when he gave me my keys. Then I think an undercover police (judging from the way he dressed) came to me and asked whether I wanted a drink. I think I only stared at him. He asked again and Zulkifli said “Pergi belikan air”. Then another police with a walkie talkie came and asked “Nak ambulance tak?”. Whoa! This time I really stared at him. Do I need an ambulance? What kind of question is that? When he asked again, Zulkifli simply said ‘No need’. I looked around and saw a police traffic bike. Then I was told to go into the Mobil shop. I started walking and the crowd has started to disperse, the rain has stop. OK, I’m in the shop, now what?

While looking outside the glass wall of the Mobil shop, I reached down for my handphone in my jeans pocket. Someone texted me. I heard the SMS tone when I regained consciousness. When I heard the incoming SMS I was like “siapalah msg aku time² camni”. Today I’m grateful. If not for the SMS, I probably wouldn’t use my handphone to contact anyone for help. I replied the text and two of my frens came for my aid. Lia and her officemate sent my bike home while Habib sent me to the nearest clinic.

I can’t lift my left arm. It was pretty bad. I sat beside the driver and I had to open and close the door by using my right hand (can you imagine that?). I told the doctor I have headache and I felt nauseating. He immediately refer me to the hospital.

So off we went to the hospital. Surprise! Surprise! Federal Highway was clear! No jam! As if everybody knew I just had an accident. To cut short the story, my skull and neck were x-rayed and I was admitted to the observation ward for one night. The doctors didn’t say anything but I heard one of the doctor refer me as the ‘head injury patient’. One nurse said headache and nausea are symptoms of head injury. That night, my whole body started to ache and my neck was the worst.

When I was discharged, the doctor gave me 3 Days of MC and I have to come back to the hospital if the following symptoms occur within 24 hours of discharge:

• Drowsiness or excessive sleepiness
• Confusion or disorientation
• Severe headache or vomiting
• Weakness of any limbs
• Convulsions, seizures, passing out or fits
• Discharge of blood or fluid from ear or nose
• Loss of taste or smell
• Double vision
• Fever

I consider myself lucky because the trauma to my head was not serious. The symptoms above didn’t occur. Had I vomit while under observation, that might say I have a blood clot in my brain. I might still be in the hospital, lying on my bed with a big bandage on my head. Praise to God I’m still breathing today and writing my blog